I used to have a completely different online persona. That is till about two weeks ago. Two weeks ago I was forced to commit web 2.0 suicide. I had reached a level of complete and utter frustration with an online stalker that the only possible way I could force him to stop, was to myself stop using all my former accounts and close them.
I know who my stalker is. He is a former co-worker. We let him go over four years ago yet he continued to try and stay in touch with us. Through the use of Statcounter and other analytic tools it was pretty easy to tell that he was pulling up my blog every time I posted. I even did experiments by posting articles and watching him consistently pulling them up in under five minuets.
When I opened my Facebook and MySpace accounts he tried to friend me. I denied and blocked him.
When I first opened my Twitter account he started following me less than two days later. I immediately blocked him.
Things started to get really strange when I started seeing his IP address link from the RSS feed of my Twitter feed pulling up the links to my blog posts. It was at this point I knew he was going to great lengths to keep up on my every move.
Then I met my wife. One day she started asking me about strange activities on her blog’s logs. I asked her for the IP address. I really shouldn’t have been that surprised when the IP address turned out to be his. Soon she was seeing the same pattern of posting and a guaranteed hit in under five minutes. He tried following her Twitter account, and was denied.
For a while we found it sad and down right humorous. We even dedicated a site to it.
Then about two weeks ago I got a Facebook message from his “wife” that was oddly timed within moments of a comment I happened to make on a mutual acquaintance’s Facebook page. She wanted to get the rundown on why I didn’t want to talk with him any more, and that I “didn’t have to worry” because she was “keeping this message a secret” and that “he would be really angry if he were to find out about the message.” I showed it to my wife and mentioned something along the lines of “this is getting kind of sick.”
The next day I had the strangest urge to write a blog post. I hadn’t written to my blog in nearly five months. Partially because I’ve been overworked and tired, and partially because now that I had moved to Austin I really didn’t want him knowing all the ins and outs of my life down here. But I decided to write a post anyway. Two minutes. Two minutes was all it took for him to pull up the post off my Twitter’s RSS feed. I was furious.
I have moved on to a new part of my life and he is obsessed with mine. So, I decided to kill of the part of me that he is obsessed with. I closed my Twitter account. I tried to delete my Facebook account And my old blog is dead.
Extreme? Maybe, but he can’t stalk what isn’t posted. And if he finds this blog, I’ll close it down as well.